Guide for Women: Strategic Tips for a Successful “Coming Out” Towards the Husband
In most of our cuckold guides and tutorials, we give tips and tricks for men. But not only men have erotic fantasies outside the bedroom at home. According to several national and international surveys, about 70 — 80% of women worldwide have dirty sex fantasies with strange men.
Especially after several years of relationship, sex life has fallen asleep for many couples.
Children, family, job, and social obligations, but also sexual habits, lack of desire, psychological problems, laziness, worries and other countless factors can creep into marriages and relationships like invisible poison.
But isn’t an exciting, varied sex life the basis for a harmonious partnership? What can be done to keep things passionate in bed? What would actually happen if women courageously told their spouses about their fantasies?
We deal with this question in this article. Read also: Cuckold coming out: how to tell my wife?
A Creeping Love Poison: Habit and Inertia
In everyday partnership life we discuss all family issues. We talk about incidents at work, about shopping, and planning the next vacation.
But one topic is usually left out: sexual fantasies, desires, preferences and erotic ideas. Completely taboo topics are fetishes and sex with strangers.
Nevertheless, we are and remain sexual beings despite long-term relationships. Men are visually very excitable and make their fantasies secretly primarily on the PC in the “study” with themselves. Women, on the other hand, mostly fantasize with a hidden vibrator in the bedroom, with the nimble hand or with the shower in the bathroom.
Incredibly dirty fantasies sometimes haunt women’s minds: sex with work colleagues, bosses, and dominant strangers. Group sex, forbidden places, sex in front of spectators, with dark-skinned athletic men (BBC), and even brutal rape fantasies.
Most of the time, people are ashamed, or they don’t want to hurt their partner with their forbidden thoughts. If one partner catches the other one secretly masturbating, it is not uncommon to have arguments with unpleasant words.
If the sexual needs are not satisfied satisfactorily over the years, one of the two will inevitably cheat at some point. At first, everything goes well. Sex with strangers is tingling, new and exciting. But one day it comes out! And that ends in drama! It is better to live out sexual fantasies together! Telly your husband some things of your dirty secrets.
“Talking” as a Prerequisite for True Relationship Happiness
Marriage counselors from all over the world confirm that for most couples, it works out in everyday life — but their sex life has become too boring over time. To get out of the vicious circle, there is only one solution. It’s “talking.”
Sexuality is a huge, multi-faceted field. The sexual fantasy world is so large that even completely different fantasies of men and women still touch and complement each other in marginal areas.
Most of the time, by the way, both sexes are equally concerned with group sex and dominance.
But how do you start? Opening the topic without the partner’s misunderstanding is not easy. With the following battle plan, it will succeed.
Preparations for the Hotwife Confession
Step 1: Separate Fantasy From Reality
First of all, you should become aware of what excites you personally. Make it clear to yourself that your goal is not to go to swingers clubs with your husband from now on.
There are many couples who go out together in their minds without aiming at a real partner swap. But knowing what makes the other partner horny is true dynamite for the relationship! Role-playing games can be played.
You can watch porn together or buy horny sex toys and catapult into orgasm heaven together. So accept your fantasies and find them “okay”.
Step 2: Occupy Yourself With Your Own Body
Over the years, your body changes, often making you feel less attractive. Take the time to learn to love your body again without the husband.
Caress your body, pamper it. Feel your pussy inside and out. If you find your body sexy, your partner will find it horny too.
Collect ideas and fantasies when you watch porn or read sex stories alone.
Observe how you react to prolonged stimulation. Taste your pussy juice and masturbate without inhibitions. Leave the sex books in the bedroom so that he can find them “by accident”.
Step 3: Slowly Bring Your Love Life Back to Normal
Think about how you can revive your love life. For example, both of you sleep in the same bed without underpants. Pamper each other and give each other tasks to organize a sizzling evening for a certain day.
Step 4: Make Ambiguous Hints
You can trigger your husband if you occasionally drop joking, ambiguous comments. This will help soften any communication barrier that may have arisen. The husband may wonder at first, but then find the courage to tease you back himself.
Step 5: Get Some Sex Toys
It’s best to pick out sex toys together on Amazon or check out sex toy guides. For starters, you could buy three vibrators for HER and three masturbators for HIM. Additionally, lube and restraints are recommended. Buy your new sex toys with the husband together.
Step 6: Intersperse Hypotheticals Into the Conversation
If the opportunity presents itself, you should steer the conversation to the woman’s sexuality, for example, during a walk. For example, claim that most women in the world lust for group sex — but they don’t tell anyone.
Just tell him, that incredibly many women masturbate secretly when the man is not at home. Tell him that you don’t need to masturbate secretly (actually do it often in his presence! 😉 ).
Tell him a little “excited” that statistically “every 3rd woman even secretly watches porn, and the man doesn’t know that”.
If he responds well to your hypotheses, you can even claim that a work colleague was once in a swingers club and got there with strange men one orgasm after another.
Watch his reactions out of the corner of your eye. He will inevitably bite and want to know more. But don’t overdo it. After all, you just want to lure him out from behind the stove.
Step 7: Small Talk and Sexual Fantasies
Once the ice is broken, you can talk about your sexual fantasies while wanking his cock. Start off innocuously and slowly move forward using the salami tactic.
Watching porn together also helps to draw attention to various fantasies without words.
Get into the habit of ruining your man’s orgasm more and more often while jerking off. When he wants to cum, abruptly take your hands away. Repeat this a few times and draw his attention to your stories or the action in the porn. 😉
If you do it right, he will bite, take your thoughts and inspire them with his own ideas.
Conclusion: Talking Is the Key to a Horny Sex Life
If you as a woman, have various sexual fantasies, desires, and thoughts — you should not make them up with yourself alone. Include your husband in your world of thoughts!
In long-term relationships, it is probably necessary to break through ingrained patterns. Bring a breath of fresh air into your partnership by taking the initiative and surprising your partner with erotic conversations and love toys.
You should stand by your fantasies and also masturbate with them and continue to imagine and pursue them without a guilty conscience.
A good tip is “hypotheses” from other people, which may well be fictitious. Finally, you can dare to come out during a penis massage or a porn movie. You certainly won’t regret it.
