Why Are Men Willing to Share Their Partners With Other Men?
When a man feels the desire to watch his wife, life partner or girlfriend having sex with strange men, this is called “Wifesharing” or “Cuckolding”. There are very many levels of expression, ranging from “just watching” to “lover and wife go on vacation together”.
Outsiders usually have little understanding for this sexual practice. How can a man voluntarily leave his partner to other men for sex and feel pleasure at the same time?!
The fact is that cuckolding and wifesharing relationships are more widespread and stable than many believe. The sexual “lending” of women is common in all cultures of the world and in all social classes.
In this cuckold guide, we look at the psychological reasons why wifesharing and cuckolding are practiced. Beforehand, we shed light on the dilemma that many long-term relationships face.
- Wifesharing party: Sharing the female partner / wife with strange men
- The truth about wifesharing and cuckolding relationships
The Problem: Most Long-Term Couples Are Dissatisfied With Their Sex Lives
Many women and men in long-term marriages and relationships are dissatisfied with their sex lives. The everyday togetherness acts like a creeping poison that gradually cools down the passion and desire for each other.
As a rule, it often only takes a few months for initial, passionate sex to become increasingly rare and, at some point, degenerate into nothing more than a compulsory act.
This development of the love life has several psychological, biological, and evolutionary reasons, which we want to get to the bottom of in this article below.
Hypothesis 1: Is the Modern Man Getting Soft Since the 80’s?
As curious as it sounds, one reason for the falling asleep of love life can be the emancipation of women with the accompanying changing male role.
Until the 60’s, the man was in charge. Gender roles were clearly defined: The man fed the family, and the woman mostly stayed at home to raise the children and take care of the household. The wife had to do everything to keep her husband happy.
The “modern man” of today is called the “metrosexual man” in technical language. He takes care of the household and the upbringing of the children together with his (working) wife. He takes care of his body and dresses in a modern way.
Nowadays, men are raised to always be nice to women. From an early age, they learn to be considerate and respect their wishes. Violence against women is (rightly) outlawed in today’s society. Through the example of their fathers, boys learn to avoid conflict and please women. When it comes to sex, men today place a high value on pleasing their female partners. Many men put their own sexual desires and needs in the background.
Although this is a welcome social development, it also has negative sides!
In a partnership with a “Nice Guy” it comes quickly to a sex life with which both are not satisfied. Instead of having a tiger in bed, most women have to settle for a pussycat. In other words, the majority of men today are just “too nice.”
Of course, women like it when they are treated and pampered like ladies. Nevertheless, they secretly long (at least occasionally) for a real guy who also “grabs” them sometimes and fucks them on the kitchen table unrestrained and hard.
Boredom and sexual dissatisfaction are the most common reasons for cheating, divorce and the failure of partnerships.
Besides the above-mentioned social reasons, biological reasons also play a role: instinctively a woman looks for a “strong protector” with good genes… A strong man can protect the woman and the common child from enemies and feed the family well. This explains why macho men are so popular with women even today, and why alpha males often have such attractive wives.
Hypothesis 2: The Sexual Development-Proceeds Unevenly Over the Course of Life
Sexual maturation and development from teenage to senior age is usually very different for men and women:
In general, girls enter puberty much earlier than boys. At the age of 11 — 14, many girls already have their first sexual experiences. Their partners are often boys who are a few years older, exude a certain dominance and maturity, and already have sexual experience.
At a young age, adolescent women are very eager to experiment and know hardly any taboos or inhibitions.
How the further sexual development of the young woman takes place depends on her partners. It can encourage the development of preferences at this time, which remain throughout life.
However, negative experiences can also completely ruin various sexual practices for the rest of life.
For boys, puberty sets in between the ages of 13 and 15 on average. In the first years, however, sexual activity is almost exclusively limited to masturbation. Sexual contact with women or girls usually does not occur until the age of 16, sometimes even later.
Boys are just as eager to experiment as girls, at least in their fantasies. However, many of them are already influenced by porn and try all kinds of practices:
- Anal sex
- Facial insemination
- Threesome sex, group sex, gangbang
- Use of sex toys
- Oral sex with jerking off into the girl’s mouth
In most cases, these attempts fail. They are put in their place by their partner. Many guys are simply denied the fulfillment of their sexual desires, which drives them into a submissive role at an early age.
Unable to live out their fantasies, they continue to resort to substitute gratification by secretly watching porn on the Internet and masturbating to it.
Career and Starting a Family Between 20s and 30s
From the early to mid-twenties, the firm partnership commitment takes place. Family planning, children, building a house or professional career play an important role, so sex is clearly pushed into the background.
However, this does not mean that sexual needs disappear completely. Depending on professional and family stress, sex is still good to mediocre.
However, according to the sexual disposition and workload, one or both partners already start to think about seeking sexual satisfaction outside the relationship.
The tendency to cheating increases significantly in both sexes from 30. Especially at parties with colleagues and friends, disastrous affairs often occur.
The Internet facilitates cheating enormously via clandestine communication channels and platforms. Suitable sexual partners can even be found for unusual fantasies.
The Second Spring From 40s
In the forties, the children are grown or even already out of the house. Sex is unfortunately only so “lala” after many years.
Nevertheless, many women blossom and become sexually active. Very many women over 40 report that it is “down” again tingling and they have many sexual fantasies. Watching porn and masturbating is no longer taboo in this generation — However, unfortunately, mostly secretly, without her husband.
Often, the husband (who is traditionally a bit older anyway) can no longer satisfy her completely because the first erection problems show up in him.
If, in addition, women do not receive the expected attention, the risk of cheating increases significantly.
But the situation is no better for men either. Some come from 40 increasingly in the midlife crisis and get, so to speak, “gate closing panic”.
They still want to experience as much as possible, which brings them to acquire a mistress or to live out their lust in a brothel. The good financial situation of many men allows them to do things that the wife at home doesn’t know about.
For both sexes, the relationship is in serious danger at this stage if there is a sexual imbalance.
Reduced Sex Drive From the Mid-50s
Only beyond menopause does the sexual situation relax. This is because in the fifties, the sex drive slowly diminishes in many men and women. In this phase of life, other things become more important than sex. However, the risk of sexual monotony arises.
If one of the two partners remains more active, dangerous sexual dissatisfaction can continue to occur even at an older age.
Wifesharing & Cuckolding Enrich the Sex Life
As you can see, from the age of mid-30s to 60s, compromises must be made so that both partners can find sexual satisfaction together! Sexual hangouts are normal, but must not become a habit.
If one of the two has sexual interests and desires that the other can’t or won’t fulfill, serious partnership problems are pre-programmed above a certain level.
Wifesharing and cuckolding can enrich the sex life in a committed relationship enormously. It stabilizes the relationship because both spouses can live out their sexual fantasies together. However, it only works if both are seriously interested in it.
The triangle of Hotwife, Cuckold and Bull(s) provides a symbiosis. All involved gain satisfaction from the relationship:
- The Hotwife gets extreme satisfaction from wifesharing. Finally, once no cuddly sex, but she is taken really hard and foreign inseminated. She gets sex not only from the bulls and lovers, but also (usually afterwards) from her husband, who wants to follow the fuckers in nothing. The anticipation of the joint fuck dates make her libido increase enormously.
- The wifesharer or cuckold goes through a roller coaster of emotions. He feels anticipation, extreme excitement, but also some jealousy, fear and envy. He finally doesn’t have to play the alpha male anymore, but can admit that he is submissive and may leave his wife to another guy to fuck.
The fact that his wife is fucked by strange men has a very positive effect on his lust. His libido is also extremely high and the anticipation of the date is enormous. After the end of the date with the Bulls, the Cuckold can hardly wait and falls like crazy over her.
Often he fucks her in the process, when she is still inseminated over and over with sperm, her fishnet stockings are torn, and her hair is rumpled. Many men get a thrill out of fucking the alien-inseminated pussy of their beloved wife and cum in the cum cocktail themselves.
- Bull and / or the lover are also very satisfied when cuckolding. Fucking a married woman is usually a social taboo. This tickles their ego to fuck the horny hotwife as hard as they are physically capable. If the cuckold is humiliated with his actions in front of his wife, it is like a balm for his self-esteem. The lovers also enjoy the pleasure that the woman shows markedly. It flatters their masculinity. Some bulls have sex with the hotwife several times, until they can’t anymore.
Conclusion: Cuckolding & Wifesharing — A Key for Lasting Love Happiness
The psychological reasons of wifesharing and cuckolding are complex and fascinating at the same time. It is impressive that this frivolous lifestyle finds such a strong interest regardless of the level of education, geographical origin and social environment.
A relationship is only stable in the long term if both partners find sexual satisfaction with each other equally. “Wife sharing” can help keep the couple sexually in tune.
Being in competition with your rival will get the very best out of your husband, or life partners, that he has to offer. In nature, we speak of the term “sperm competition”.
The man puts a lot of effort into showing his best side during sex and in everyday life.
The cuckold, or wifesharer draws his pleasure from the satisfaction of his wife. He literally feasts on every orgasm. He believes that his wife “deserves” to have sex with a potent bull or multiple lovers. Foreign insemination without a condom is explicitly part of this.
However, enabling sex with strangers does not mean that he necessarily wants to completely abdicate his sexual responsibilities. On the contrary, after being with her lover, he can’t wait to have sex with his wife
Cuckolds report going through a roller coaster ride of emotions, including fear, jealousy, and panic, all contributing to this indescribable erotic intensity and excitement because his wife is unfaithful to him….
More Sources About Cuckolding & Wifesharing:
- Cuckolding: What Is It, Why People Love It & 5 Beginner Tips
- 5 reasons why sex is better in your 40s
- 9 Reasons Cuckolding Is The Ultimate Way To Reignite Your Sex Life
- Women watch porn, too — but why?
- Cuckolding: the least sexy word for one of the sexiest fetishes
- Cuckolding can be positive for some couples, study says
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